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【Weekly Topic 2026.10.18】 How to Deal with People We Dislike or Hate
lizhenxuan
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Floor 1 Posted at: 10/18/26 10:36
We all meet people we do not get along with—a classmate, a teacher, a relative, or someone in a group project. Sometimes it is a small annoyance. Sometimes it is a deep dislike. We cannot always avoid them. This week, let us share real experiences and practical strategies for handling these difficult relationships without losing our peace of mind.
lizhenxuan
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Floor 2 Posted at: 10/18/26 10:37
Discussion Questions:

1. Think of a person you dislike but have to interact with (no need to name them). What is the main reason for your dislike—their behavior, words, habits, or something else?
2. How do you usually act around this person? Do you avoid them, stay polite, or show your dislike openly?
3. What is the hardest part about dealing with someone you dislike—controlling your emotions, hiding your feelings, or something else?
4. Have you ever tried to change your attitude toward someone you dislike? Did it work? What helped or did not help?
5. Some people say we should "be polite but keep distance." Others say we should try to understand the person better. Which approach do you think is more realistic in daily life? Why?
6. If a friend asked you for advice on dealing with a person they dislike, what is one tip you would give them?
 
lizhenxuan: Host's Note: This is not about judging anyone or encouraging hatred. It is about sharing honest experiences and learning from each other. No perfect answers, just real life.
  10/18/26 10:38 Reply
lizhenxuan
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Floor 3 Posted at: 10/18/26 10:42
This topic is inspired by the idea from @叶子保护伞 .
安布雷拉叶
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Floor 4 Posted at: 10/22/26 0:27
Oh, that's good, this is the idea from me
 
lizhenxuan: thanks for your commitment. You can also share your thoughts on some dicussion questions.
  10/22/26 23:31 Reply
啊啊是谁都对
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Floor 5 Posted at: 10/22/26 20:32
2. How do you usually act around this person? Do you avoid them, stay polite, or show your dislike openly?

Avoid them first. If I cannot do that, then keep tolerating and stay polite to make sure they cannot get the goods on me.
 
啊啊是谁都对: get the goods on sb: To obtain scandalous, incriminating, or otherwise damaging evidence or information about someone.
  10/22/26 20:32 Reply
啊啊是谁都对
总编 二十四级
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Floor 6 Posted at: 10/22/26 20:33
3. What is the hardest part about dealing with someone you dislike—controlling your emotions, hiding your feelings, or something else?

Both of the first two.
lizhenxuan
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Floor 7 Posted at: 10/22/26 23:35
Expression Bag : https://zh.purasbar.com/post/39283
lizhenxuan
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Floor 8 Posted at: 10/22/26 23:38
1. Think of a person you dislike but have to interact with (no need to name them). What is the main reason for your dislike—their behavior, words, habits, or something else?

I had quarrered with one of my classmates in high school, not only for some unpleasant things between us but also for his impolite and arrogant character,
lizhenxuan
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Floor 9 Posted at: 10/22/26 23:42
2. How do you usually act around this person? Do you avoid them, stay polite, or show your dislike openly?

I just avoided to meet him.
 
lizhenxuan: Sometimes I remark badly on him even if i know it's unkind of me to do so.
  10/22/26 23:45 Reply
lizhenxuan
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Floor 10 Posted at: 10/22/26 23:49
5. Some people say we should "be polite but keep distance." Others say we should try to understand the person better. Which approach do you think is more realistic in daily life? Why?

It depands on how many people you dislike and who they are. If there are too many people who are unkind at their cores, it's almost impossible to understand. 

Generally, it will be better to understand if possible, but understanding is quite difficult for many of us.
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